This one's really got me stumped
As usual, I like to read the threads here.
Recently there has been several 'boring' posts between people arguing each others about how they felt things and reacted to them or to what the preopinant said, or believe it was said, etc... We all know : Quote:
Usually everything is fine and the storm does not last for long (maybe a few pages). What really got me stumped this time is that I just noticed this : https://i.ibb.co/nPxDr4S/Banned.png I said to myself : "Hummm, a bit strong as he initially only voiced an opinion, but so be it. For sure it's not for a long time." Both involved in the argument were wrong as this discussion should never ever have been raised in a thread (but in PM), so they were at the end (to quote them - if I recall correctly) stubborn. The problem is that it does not seems to be the same rule for everybody as the status of the other person involved in the arguing, is normal. And of course, a clean up has been done. So no evidences left... Well I know for sure that some moderator(s) will feel titillated by my words but... damn, warn them both, 'punish' them both or none of them because they were both like kids in kindergarten... By punishing only one you give a really bad message. And force me to write this post. It's not because everything happened in the thread opened by the other person involved that it absolves him from his replies (especially the first one that lighted the fire) and inability to have kept the exchange healthy. Quote:
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I was reading this curfuffle earlier, both giving as good as they got but I hate to see ill temper in a community as small as ours.
My 2 cents would be to unban him and give a strong warning that whomever bites next time is banned for a month. To be fair to Mcgeezer, Damien had trolled his thread, this seemed to bring up some history. |
I flagged the thread twice. I can witness that the arguments were becoming nasty. Shame as I reckon that DamienD and McGeezer met in London some months ago for a beer or something (well then maybe it was years ago)...
I'm not taking sides, but if I must I'm taking the side of the person who honestly tries to get some info on what game to do next :) |
Missed this kerfuffle. Ah well.
Do Wonderboy :) |
I am not taking side as well, this is why I think there is an inequity in the treatment of both person involved in these exchanges.
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What I do know is that I don't envy the moderators their task in the slightest. It's always sad when disputes arise between valued members of our community, and having to take action in such cases is a truly thankless task. I really hope cooler heads will prevail and this will be forgotten soon. |
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I don't believe that DamienD is banned.
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A shame what happend here tonight. And i don't mean this public thread alone. Yes, some things happend later then. But we are all grown man. And that includes everyone. Damien is out for good, as he told me. Calling him a troll or worse (in public or not) is plain shit. Heated things explodes sometimes, happens to everyone. Seen this often enough on EAB. But i thought we'd overcome this kind of issues by now. But it seems not the case.
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I haven't read all of this yet but a banning isn't always directly related to just the post that people. See and assume, so let's not eh. There have been other issues with DamienD in the past that you are not privvy to. I didn't announce DamienD being banned nor would I announce if I were to give you or anyone else a warning, ban etc.
As moderators we try to keep an eye on the behaviour of members and a lot of the time that behaviour including posts is kept an eye on. When someone steps over that threshold they might be banned. Let's stop making assumptions about things you clearly have no understanding of, other than the most recent incident which is fresh in your minds. With the "cleanup" again you have no idea. The posts are still there, they have been removed from public view. Moderators can still view them. Anyone else wants to discuss this feel free to private message myself, any other gm or rck Ps.. DamienD has received a short ban. He is fully aware of the reasons for the ban, whether he agrees or not, I have told him what has led to this.. |
Sure, we don't know everything what happend. But i noticed a mood shift against him the last few month. About the time he lost his s-mod powers. The ban can't be related to the Amiga ports thread, that was just annoying bickering between two grown-ups, nothing else. So yes, something happend later via social media as it seems. And there was no way to de-escalate things? I find this hard to believe, Bippy.
For gods sake: you and the whole EAB team, know him more than 15 years. Your diplomatic answer seems a bit flat for me. It not that Graeme or other members didn't do embarrassing things in the last 1-2 years (more than once). |
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You don't know why he was banned, I am not going to tell you, but when he returns DamienD can inform you of why he was banned. The mood change you talk about is the mood change DamienD created himself when he stopped being a mod, again the reasons for this I am sure he will tell you if you ask him. Quote:
This ban is directly related to that thread, but not the sole reason. As I have said above there are other instances, and no I am not going to divulge them to you or anyone else. DamienD can if he wants to Quote:
erm.. Where have I mentioned social media? I don't think I did, so stop making shit up. There is no need for it. Quote:
Correct which why he wasn't banned previously for another argument/troll/fight that he wouldn't let go despite being asked to repeatedly. Again you don't know everythig so let's stop speculating please. Quote:
Sorry, this isn't a democracy. As mods and gms we have a job to do, and I am afraid that our decisions are not always going to be appreciated by everyone. DamienD has received a short ban. He knows why, end of discussion. Quote:
Correct, lots of members do embarrasing things, myself included and if we don't listen when warned or advised, expect a ban. That goes for me as well as every other member. I am not above the rules of this forum, and neither is anyone else including mcgeezer and DamienD |
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Because he said that you and Graeme had a fight with him last night over What's App. Or do you say he lied in the face to me? Why should he do that? :confused |
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Has he accused me of things that are blatantly ridiculous. Yes he did this via whatsapp, and he could not support what he has said.. Why because it is untrtue. Whatsapp is also not social media. It is a person to person messaging app (in this instance) and I also clearly told DamienD in his ban message to not contact me outside of the eab over this and we would discuss via PM on his return. He proceeded to ignore that So when you and any other member has finished, get off your high horse because you don't have all the facts and stop making assumptions. |
I'm not discussing if What's App is social media or not. Seems a bit silly for me, because all things considered it actually can be called that too.
Your tone strikes me a bit pissed (i get that), even arrogant at this point. No one is blaming you for something. I know his stubborn and sometimes aggressive "phases". But i guess it could have been handled better. That's all what i' saying to that matter. Obviously it's a lost case now. Quote:
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Like i have said above, I respect Damien but he isn't above the rules. This isn't just an isolated instance, this was the final straw.
He did burn out, and my hope was he would go away, energise and come back fresh faced and raring to go.. Sadly that hasn't happened yet. I also am not pissed off, my tone is factual of what has happened without giving all details. I more disappointed in all honesty Quote:
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@Retro-Nerd : I second your analysis.
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Being a moderator at stackoverflow (where we also saw former mods going berzerk and ended up banned or self-deleting their accounts) I fully understand BippyM stance.
And he disclosed the private conversation he had with DamienD, and also globally why he was banned (I myself noticed the change of behaviour, the trolling with whdload, arcade ports, and generally not-so-nice behaviour), but doing that he did you a favor. In general moderators don't disclose why users were banned. In stackoverflow (or meta) someone who posts something like "why this user was banned" receives post closure or deletion. So EAB is rather transparent after all. |
I am really sad that shit happened. I consider Damien as a friend. Hopefully it is not permanent ban.
Not knowing the facts, I cannot judge. At least, this sends the message that nobody is above the rules, which i suppose is a good thing. |
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It's a good job yours and any other members analysis is pointless isn't it. Let me explain this, for the last time in a way you can understand. Imagine a bucket. This bucket can only hold so much water. Each time a member does something silly it goes into this bucket. Sooner or later the bucket is going to overflow. This happened to Damien, and instead of sending him packing his mod status was removed to allow him time to recuperate. This allowed more space in his bucket. Damien though continued with his little remarks, his goading and posting to bait other members. . Again his bucket overflowed. He has now received a ban, and allowed some more space in his bucket. Now I am not going to explain this to you again. This is not black and white so please stop posting bollox because you're starting to annoy me. If you have an issue with this please pm me. Thank you |
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