Anger, And how People cope with theirs? (It says off topic) - Page 2

Zak · 22 July 2019, 19:49

I quit with everything like drinking and smoking a long time ago, and all this had such a great potential of relaxation that I lost with it.

And then I found ASMR and that totally changed everything. I mostly watch ASMR videos on Youtube. With the right triggers, I get a strong relaxing tingling sensation in my head and spine, it's amazing.

Not everyone has this tingling effect though, but I heard that it's still relaxing to watch even without the tingles.

People say those videos are weird, but I'm far beyond such categories like normal or weird. Is it really normal to smoke a cigarette? And the ASMR relaxation is much stronger for me than what a cigarette can do.

nathanm1991 · 22 July 2019, 19:56

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Originally Posted by gimbal

Ha! "Keyboard Warriors". Oh I like that.

you not heard that one then?

It's great isn't it I thought that when I first heard it

nathanm1991 · 22 July 2019, 20:03

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zak

I quit with everything like drinking and smoking a long time ago, and all this had such a great potential of relaxation that I lost with it.

And then I found ASMR and that totally changed everything. I mostly watch ASMR videos on Youtube. With the right triggers, I get a strong relaxing tingling sensation in my head and spine, it's amazing.

Not everyone has this tingling effect though, but I heard that it's still relaxing to watch even without the tingles.

People say those videos are weird, but I'm far beyond such categories like normal or weird. Is it really normal to smoke a cigarette? And the ASMR relaxation is much stronger for me than what a cigarette can do.

Currently trying to Quite both Smoking and Drinking so Kudos on Actually Succeeding Buddy

just because other find it Weird doesn't make it Weird it's what you like and if that works for you then Great

lilalurl · 22 July 2019, 21:13

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Originally Posted by Zak

And then I found ASMR and that totally changed everything.

Would you mind sharing a few recommendations?

I had never heard about the acronym ASMR.
But apparently rain/waterfall sounds can fall into this category, although I discovered these when searching "white noise" videos. I happen to have been listening to such stuff when I need to focus on some work (and not wanting to be distracted by music). For example:
[ Show youtube player ]

nathanm1991 · 22 July 2019, 21:24

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Originally Posted by lilalurl

Would you mind sharing a few recommendations?

I had never heard about the acronym ASMR.
But apparently rain/waterfall sounds can fall into this category, although I discovered these when searching "white noise" videos. I happen to have been listening to such stuff when I need to focus on some work (and not wanting to be distracted by music). For example:
[ Show youtube player ]

Rain is one thing that really does Relax me :-)

Zak · 22 July 2019, 21:50

Quote:

Originally Posted by lilalurl

Would you mind sharing a few recommendations?

I had never heard about the acronym ASMR.

Basically there are two ways of ASMR:
1. Roleplays that show situations that relax you.
For example a visit at the doctor.
[ Show youtube player ]

2. Trigger sounds like tapping, scratching, crinkles and so on
Dmitri (MassageASMR) used to be the king of such videos, his older ones are great
[ Show youtube player ]

The most successful channels at the moment the far I know are Gentle Whispering https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6g...g7eJ8VuXDCZ_vg

and Gibi ASMR https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE6...35znLcf0JGNn7Q

and ASMR Darling https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCik...T3QC9axUbXCPYw

Edit: her real name is actually Taylor Darling, there is always a discussion whether ASMR is a sexual thing or not but it basically isn't and there a re also good male ASMRtists like Raphy Taphy or Ephemeral Rift. The list is endless, I would estimate there is a million ASMR videos on Youtube, no joke, some things work for you and some don't

gimbal · 23 July 2019, 10:11

ASMR is great if it works for you, unfortunately it doesn't for everyone. I like Microphone scratching, nails tapping on a wooden box types of things and have some success with trigger words depending on who voices it. This is one of my favorite scratching videos:

[ Show youtube player ]

If your brain is really racing about something - and that can be anything including "the tetris effect" from playing the same game too much, a good ASMR video can help to do a mental reset.

Anubis · 23 July 2019, 16:45

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Originally Posted by Hewitson

This isn't something I ever expected to see here. Having said that, I'd like to thank the OP so much for posting this. I have more mental health issues than any of you will ever know.

Do not underestimate us mate, please.

Firstly, surviving genocide and after starting from 0 multiple times in first 3 decades of my life made me realize that hate is very unhealthy and having explosive personality mixed with ADHD and few other things can lead to many unneeded and unhealthy conflicts.

Speaking on forums - what really agitates me when someone starts to take control of where discussion is going. This makes it hard to be part of hardly moderated forums and I really try to avoid them and this lead to my partial self ban from this site for couple of years. (RIP total-emu

)

From my personal experience, people can evolve, change, heal and find a way to cope with their loss or issue(s), just give them enough time and room. One of my biggest regrets in life is that I did not help a friend whose problems (mainly from drinking and later mental issues) I did not understand at the time - he took his life after developing high level of schizophrenia.

My views on many things have changed in past 20 years and are still changing.

Video games, books and movies, retro computers and gaming and family is mainly what keeps me going. This forum is part of it. Living in game such as Elite Dangerous - with whole galaxy to explore - run through... Or just trying something new...

Quote:

Originally Posted by nathanm1991

Rain is one thing that really does Relax me :-)

I use Alexa at home, and it can play ambient noise / sounds.

https://alexasounds.com/

Not that we need it in past 2 months. We had more rain then in past 10 years.

Zak · 23 July 2019, 19:20

Quote:

Originally Posted by gimbal

ASMR is great if it works for you, unfortunately it doesn't for everyone. I like Microphone scratching, nails tapping on a wooden box types of things and have some success with trigger words depending on who voices it.

People that don't have ASMR effects often get relaxation from ASMR roleplays.
[ Show youtube player ]

I personally like light triggers and measuring videos. I also like dental picks on the mic.
[ Show youtube player ]

[ Show youtube player ]

[ Show youtube player ]

lilalurl · 23 July 2019, 22:51

Thanks for the various recommendations.

Retroplay · 23 July 2019, 23:08

Quote:

Originally Posted by nathanm1991

Rain is one thing that really does Relax me :-)

Rainymood.com

Goes perfectly hand in hand with some of Mike Oldfield's "chill out" tunes:
https://rainymood.com/watch?v=MU9XRg5W4LQ
https://rainymood.com/watch?v=V3R3SL2LMzg

nathanm1991 · 24 July 2019, 02:35

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Originally Posted by Retroplay

Rainymood.com

Goes perfectly hand in hand with some of Mike Oldfield's "chill out" tunes:
https://rainymood.com/watch?v=MU9XRg5W4LQ
https://rainymood.com/watch?v=V3R3SL2LMzg

I was Waiting for Mike Oldfield to be Brought up. What Talent! Ambient, Spooky and Original

nathanm1991 · 24 July 2019, 02:40

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anubis

Do not underestimate us mate, please.

Firstly, surviving genocide and after starting from 0 multiple times in first 3 decades of my life made me realize that hate is very unhealthy and having explosive personality mixed with ADHD and few other things can lead to many unneeded and unhealthy conflicts.

Speaking on forums - what really agitates me when someone starts to take control of where discussion is going. This makes it hard to be part of hardly moderated forums and I really try to avoid them and this lead to my partial self ban from this site for couple of years. (RIP total-emu

)

From my personal experience, people can evolve, change, heal and find a way to cope with their loss or issue(s), just give them enough time and room. One of my biggest regrets in life is that I did not help a friend whose problems (mainly from drinking and later mental issues) I did not understand at the time - he took his life after developing high level of schizophrenia.

My views on many things have changed in past 20 years and are still changing.

Video games, books and movies, retro computers and gaming and family is mainly what keeps me going. This forum is part of it. Living in game such as Elite Dangerous - with whole galaxy to explore - run through... Or just trying something new...

I use Alexa at home, and it can play ambient noise / sounds.

https://alexasounds.com/

Not that we need it in past 2 months. We had more rain then in past 10 years.

Retro Keeps me going too buddy along with this Forum and a few other Things.

Please do not Regret what Happened to your Friend, sometimes you think you may be helping by taking a Step back and it isn't always the case. That doesn't make you Remotely to blame at all. Remember the Good times.

Mental Health is Scary and Before I could Admit to Myself that I needed a little bit of extra help when it comes to Coping, it used to Scare me!

Gaining a Understanding of it I think comes with Age Buddy it took me a long time to Accept I am Different

Hewitson · 24 July 2019, 05:44

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anubis

Do not underestimate us mate, please.

Wasn't underestimating anyone, it's just uncommon to see mental health mentioned on a retro computing forum.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anubis

From my personal experience, people can evolve, change, heal and find a way to cope with their loss or issue(s), just give them enough time and room. One of my biggest regrets in life is that I did not help a friend whose problems (mainly from drinking and later mental issues) I did not understand at the time - he took his life after developing high level of schizophrenia.

This is exactly where I am heading. And I feel like there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by gimbal

ASMR is great if it works for you, unfortunately it doesn't for everyone. I like Microphone scratching, nails tapping on a wooden box types of things and have some success with trigger words depending on who voices it. This is one of my favorite scratching videos:

[ Show youtube player ]

I'm sorry, but I have no idea how listening to annoying sounds can possibly be helpful. Why wouldn't you just listen to silence, or some music that you liked?

jmmijo · 24 July 2019, 05:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hewitson

I'm sorry, but I have no idea how listening to annoying sounds can possibly be helpful. Why wouldn't you just listen to silence, or some music that you liked?

Like the old Simon and Garfunkel tune:

Sound of Silence

Anubis · 24 July 2019, 15:29

Quote:

Originally Posted by Retroplay

Rainymood.com

Goes perfectly hand in hand with some of Mike Oldfield's "chill out" tunes:
https://rainymood.com/watch?v=MU9XRg5W4LQ
https://rainymood.com/watch?v=V3R3SL2LMzg

It is on some of my playlist, mostly with Jean Michel Jarre. Some of this music brings back memories...

Quote:

Originally Posted by nathanm1991

Retro Keeps me going too buddy along with this Forum and a few other Things.

Please do not Regret what Happened to your Friend, sometimes you think you may be helping by taking a Step back and it isn't always the case. That doesn't make you Remotely to blame at all. Remember the Good times.

Mental Health is Scary and Before I could Admit to Myself that I needed a little bit of extra help when it comes to Coping, it used to Scare me!

Gaining a Understanding of it I think comes with Age Buddy it took me a long time to Accept I am Different

I asked my self what could I have done differently to make change, and it is hard to imagine different results. At the time I got married, worked around 50 hours a week and was going to college. In that pressure was easy to forget all issues, but also some people that meant a lot to me in childhood. Probably would not change much, if I did anything differently, except probably make me feel better.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hewitson

Wasn't underestimating anyone, it's just uncommon to see mental health mentioned on a retro computing forum.

Usually people don't write those in profile... wonder why not.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hewitson

This is exactly where I am heading. And I feel like there's absolutely nothing I can do about it.

Professional help is what you really should focus on. Sure, we all think we have all wisdom of the world, but really just someone trained in this stuff is able to help you.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hewitson

I'm sorry, but I have no idea how listening to annoying sounds can possibly be helpful. Why wouldn't you just listen to silence, or some music that you liked?

It does not have to be annoying music. How about [ Show youtube player ]- this moody music does wonder for me.

Quote:

Originally Posted by jmmijo

Like the old Simon and Garfunkel tune:

Sound of Silence

Not sure why, but first things that comes after that song for me has to be [ Show youtube player ].

malko · 24 July 2019, 16:34

This one came to my mind :
[ Show youtube player ]

Anubis · 24 July 2019, 17:01

Ouch...

Video unavailable
The uploader has not made this video available in your country.

I do like the song, tho.

gimbal · 25 July 2019, 11:37

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anubis

Firstly, surviving genocide

... another one of those things you just never expect to be dropped into a conversation so casually!

nathanm1991 · 26 July 2019, 04:25

Apologies on Absence! as I have Stated in other Topics I Created my Mental health has gotten the Better of me the Past Couple of Days! just Needed a Breather!

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22 July 2019, 19:49	#21
Zak Zap´em Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Germany Posts: 402	I quit with everything like drinking and smoking a long time ago, and all this had such a great potential of relaxation that I lost with it. And then I found ASMR and that totally changed everything. I mostly watch ASMR videos on Youtube. With the right triggers, I get a strong relaxing tingling sensation in my head and spine, it's amazing. Not everyone has this tingling effect though, but I heard that it's still relaxing to watch even without the tingles. People say those videos are weird, but I'm far beyond such categories like normal or weird. Is it really normal to smoke a cigarette? And the ASMR relaxation is much stronger for me than what a cigarette can do.

23 July 2019, 10:11	#27
gimbal cheeky scoundrel Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Spijkenisse/Netherlands Age: 38 Posts: 3,471	ASMR is great if it works for you, unfortunately it doesn't for everyone. I like Microphone scratching, nails tapping on a wooden box types of things and have some success with trigger words depending on who voices it. This is one of my favorite scratching videos: [ Show youtube player ] If your brain is really racing about something - and that can be anything including "the tetris effect" from playing the same game too much, a good ASMR video can help to do a mental reset.

23 July 2019, 22:51	#30
lilalurl Global Moderator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: France Age: 40 Posts: 3,062	Thanks for the various recommendations.

24 July 2019, 16:34	#37
malko Ex nihilo nihil Join Date: Oct 2017 Location: CH Posts: 2,357	This one came to my mind : [ Show youtube player ]

24 July 2019, 17:01	#38
Anubis Maj. Voodoo Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Raking Woods... Age: 47 Posts: 2,849	Ouch... Video unavailable The uploader has not made this video available in your country. I do like the song, tho.

26 July 2019, 04:25	#40
nathanm1991 Self Diagnosed Noob! Join Date: Apr 2018 Location: Malvern, Worcestershire Age: 28 Posts: 546	Apologies on Absence! as I have Stated in other Topics I Created my Mental health has gotten the Better of me the Past Couple of Days! just Needed a Breather!

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