I can be selfish with strangers but to be this way with your family you must indeed be beyond the veil of sanity
I'm not sure how I'd feel if my house full of computer gear went up in smoke due to someone elses emotional/mental rollercoaster
You have every right to feel exactly how you want too... good luck with the future!
p.s. we don't know each other but I've seen many of your threads in your pursuit of software and acts of kindness and support... nothing can take that away!