Just read this thread and am totally shocked and stunned. My most heartfelt thoughts and positive energies are with you and your family. I hope that the road to the end of this ordeal is not too long and you can all start to live carefree lives again soon.
My mother (who has the virtues of a nun!) once gave me some advice when I was going through a horrible time: "There will be sh*t. Plenty of sh*t. But don't fight it. Just ride through all the sh*t a day at a time and soon it will all be behind you."
I don't know if I was more shocked about the advice or her language! Anyway, it worked for me and I hope it will be of some use for you and your family too.
Sending a BIG hug from the UK - LuMan