I am really sorry to hear about your losses here. I can't imagine how difficult it may be for you and your family right now.
My concern here is why the severity of your fathers illness was not picked up sooner, and was allowed to deteriorate to this level.
If you need an ear please give me a shout, and chin up.
nb. On a side note I have moved this thread to off-topic. I don't want to come across as rude or uncaring, but it's not really news.